Divorces are emotional experiences that can turn your children’s world upside down. It can be very traumatic for them to witness your divorce. They may feel shock, anger or uncertainty. They can also feel guilty. Divorce is not seamless, and it can cause grief for your children. However, addressing the topic properly can help them cope.
Being patient and listening can help them learn to cope. You can develop a routine that considers their feelings. You can also avoid conflict with your ex to improve your children’s experience. Here is how you can address divorce with your kids.
What they want from their parents
Children want both of their parents to stay involved in their lives. They want lots of calls, texts or emails. If you do not stay active, your child could feel unimportant. At the same time, they also want you to stop fighting. When it comes to your children, make sure you agree. Fighting about them can make your child feel guilty.
How to talk to them
Talking to your kids about divorce can be terrifying. However, preparing beforehand will make it much more manageable, and your kids can understand the situation better. So first, deal with your anxieties, then sit down and anticipate the tough questions so you are thoroughly prepared to talk to them.
When kids ask questions about your agreed divorce, be honest with them. For example, if you do not know the answer to one of their questions, tell them the truth and assure them that you will find out.
Make sure you take other measures too. For example, discuss your divorce with your children’s doctors and teachers so they can help provide support.