Every divorce has its challenges, and if you are a parent, your children go through significantly more emotional conflict than you do. During this time, your children need you more than they ever have.
Therefore, these are a few tips to help you and your children through your divorce.
Encourage communication and sharing
Your children may experience things that they do not know how to express or deal with. You need to make sure they feel comfortable coming to you with their questions, feelings and challenges. Talk openly with them about the divorce, but reassure them that you both love them and they are not to blame. In addition, avoid any negative talk about your spouse because this may discourage them from being open with you.
Focus on your children
You need to learn the best co-parenting strategies and implement them. These include creating a schedule to promote stability, communicating with your spouse, not using your children as messengers and encouraging your children to spend time with you. Make your children your focus.
Prepare for conflict
You and your spouse are likely to argue during the divorce proceedings. However, avoid arguing in front of your children. You should also expect some conflict with your children. Stay patient and positive. They are likely confused and conflicted, and they may not have the coping mechanisms to deal with everything they feel.
It is easy to think the worst of your partner, but this can impact your attitude toward your children and your reaction to their shared stories. Instead, give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. Remain kind so your transfers stay amicable.
To get the best results, work with your former spouse to create a positive environment for your children.