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Debunking common divorce mediation myths

Scenario one: You and your spouse are headed for divorce in what is sure to be an ordeal fraught with conflict. The very thought of enduring the divorce causes your emotions to soar to nearly out of control levels. You are certain you have little if any control over what is about to happen.

Scenario two: You and your spouse are planning to sever your ties. You have done your homework and learned that in Tennessee, you and your spouse must try to find a resolution through divorce mediation first. Considering what is about to happen, you feel relatively calm about your situation.

What is the difference between the two scenarios above? In the second situation, at least one spouse has made an effort to learn about divorce mediation. The mediation process comes with many misconceptions. By dispelling these myths, you and your spouse are better prepared to end your marriage.

Below are three common myths regarding mediation and divorce.

  1. Mediation naturally favors one spouse over the other. In truth, mediators undergo extensive training and education to maintain an impartial viewpoint.
  2. Divorce mediation is always the right solution. In truth, many couples are not good candidates for divorce mediation. Examples in which a traditional divorce might be the better option include abusive relationships and some high-asset divorces.
  3. The mediator makes the final decisions about divorce: In truth, mediators make no decisions at all. His or her role is to help the two spouses work together and make their own decisions.

In the end, you really can have some control over the outcome of your divorce. Consider expanding your divorce mediation education by talking with a legal professional about the laws in Tennessee.

Source: Marriage.com, “Divorce Mediation Myths,” accessed Feb. 16, 2018