Divorce can be a humbling experience in the best of circumstances. When it's particularly acrimonious, with hurled insults or salacious allegations, it's a far worse scenario.
One of the worst aspects of such divorces is that the records are public and available to pretty much anyone with the time and curiosity to go poke through courthouse records. That's rarely reassuring to those who have the most intimate details of their marital life laid bare.
Celebrities have long dealt with these situations by hashing out the divorce details out of the courtroom before submitting the final agreement to be signed by the judge. But that option is not just limited to those who are rich and famous.
Mediation is a good tool to use when you want to preserve as much of your dignity and privacy as is possible in a divorce. It's also a great way to maintain the children's privacy in custody proceedings where having matters determined in open court would be detrimental to them.
When spouses are angry at their children's other parent, they can forget how damaging a divorce can be to the kids. They may lash out with accusations of infidelity and other allegations that can damage the other spouse's reputation or even cost them their job.
Mediation adds a layer of welcome privacy to divorce proceedings. These discussions are private and only between the spouses, their respective attorneys and the mediator. The mediator's role is to keep the negotiations on track, and your attorney is present to protect your interests at all times.
Once a settlement agreement is reached, the parties sign off on it. The order that is then submitted to the court can be quite vague or nebulous, e.g., "The parties have settled all matters" or something to that effect is a common phrase when the litigants are attempting to avoid dishing the dirt on the specifics.
Is divorce mediation a good option for you? While it's not in the cards for everyone, ask your Seymour family law attorney if you could benefit from mediation.